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Safe Sex

You can define your Sexuality..........Or you can let it define you!

Reasons to Wait:
  1. No worries of contracting a sexually transmitted infection or disease.
  2. No emotional risk - sex bonds you to another person for life.
  3. No unplanned pregnancies.
  4. Lower chance for damaged relationships.
  5. There are rewards for waiting to engage in sexual activity.

SAFE SEX: What comes to mind when we hear this expression? Safe implies protection and security. Often we think of condoms when we hear this expression. Condoms do provide a reduced risk of pregnancy and STD transmission. They do not, however totally eliminate the risk of either consequence. Safe sex takes place in a mutually faithful, monogamous relationship (marriage) where there is no risk of STDs. Sexual activity outside of a married relationship impacts us in many ways. Condoms do not protect the heart.

We are also under the false assurance that condoms protect us 100% and are pretty much foolproof. There have been many improvements made with the manufacturing of the latex used. There is however, no such thing as a 100% effective condom.

Failure rates as they relate to disease are even more alarming. Both a male and female can get a disease passed between them during sexual activity on any day of the month so the odds decrease. The condom covers only the penis and the viruses and bacteria that are in sperm and vaginal fluid can be shared with partners on the areas of the body that are not covered by a penis. Some of the viral sexually transmitted diseases can also be passed through skin to skin touching.

With increased condom use there is still an epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases. Condoms leave us at risk for STDs.

Experts estimate that the failure rate of a condom to prevent pregnancy after one year of consistent use is about 17%. That is based on the fact that a girl can get pregnant only about 2-5 days out of the month. With a guy using a condom correctly and 100% of the time there is still a failure rate of 2%.

OB/GYN Clinical Alert - American Health Consultants Feb. 2008

Other methods of pregnancy prevention also have failure rates which need to be considered when making decisions regarding sexual activity.

Safe sex is truly defined as being in a married relationship after having abstained and with a partner who has made the same choice. For those who have been in a prior relationship(s) they need to be tested to make sure they do not have any STDs. Remaining faithful in the new married relationship allows sexual activity to be safe from STDs.

Condom Facts

If condoms were effective against STDs, it would be reasonable to expect that an increase in condom usage would correlate to a decrease in STDs overall - which is not the case. Rather, as condom usage has increased, so have the rates of STDs.

On the back of each condom package and repeated on the instruction sheet are the words "If used properly, latex condoms will help to reduce the risk of transmission of HIV infection (AIDS) and many other sexually transmitted diseases. Also highly effective against pregnancy." Again, there is a difference between reduction of risk and elimination of it.

The Center of Disease Control:

Condom usage has been steadily increasing among all age groups. Among teenagers, reported rates of condom usage are significantly higher than among adults. Close to 40% of teens still indicate that they didn't use a condom the last time they had sex. 2011 Youth Sexual Risk Behavior Survey - CDC

Rates for Chlamydia continue to increase, and this increase is highest among teenagers - the same age group reporting the highest rates of condom usage. Although rates for gonorrhea have been generally in decline, rates are still highest among teenagers - the same age group reporting the highest rates of condom usage.

According to the CDC safety comes from making healthy choices. "The surest way to avoid transmission of sexually transmitted diseases is to abstain from sexual intercourse, or to be in a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship with a partner who has been tested and you know if uninfected. For persons whose sexual behaviors place them at risk for STDs, correct and consistent use of the male latex condom can reduce the risk of STD transmission. However no protective method is 100 percent effective, and condom use cannot guarantee absolute protection against any STD." CDC

A report authored by some of the nation's leading experts on sexually transmitted diseases and condom research states, "America is facing an epidemic of STDs. It is imperative that Americans understand what the science says about the limits of condoms in keeping them safe from STDs, many of which can have life-altering consequences, including infertility and cancer." Sex, Condoms, and STDs: What We Now Know - Medical Institute for Sexual Health

Condoms ≠ Safe Sex

There are many who advocate for the use of condoms and conclude that if it is effective in reducing the risk for pregnancy it must also reduce the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. There is no clinical proof of condoms being effective in risk elimination for the transmission of STDs/STIs. What we do know is that it reduces risk, but there is no evidence of it totally eliminating the spread of disease.

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